Whatever you do, never try to “wing it.” If you do that you will lose your credibility, your integrity, and damage your reputation. Have the courage, and have 100% certainty that you don’t know.
I have been part of the engineering industry since 1999, and in that time I have worked with an automotive company, a gas and heating company, and many railway companies. All these types of companies have a lot of things in common, but one of the main things is “gossip.”
You probably know this yourself. I don’t think one day went past when I didn’t hear a new rumour about someone or something, throughout my whole career. These rumours usually came from people who either just made them up, or they heard something and got the totally wrong end of the stick.
It was incredible because as I climbed the leadership ladder, I found that no matter what level you are in the organisation, the rumours are spread everywhere. They could have come from the highest level in the organisation or from the lowest. Everybody spread the gossip.
1. Why People Spread Rumours In The Workplace
The reason people spread gossip or rumours was to try and get everybody else to see them as “go to” people for information. They thought that this would make them more credible within the organisation or their department. But, most of the time the information they spread was either untrue, or completely off from the actual truth.
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So most of the time, their credibility would be lost because they were spreading misinformation. I found it strange that people who didn’t have a clue what they were talking about, would spread information that they were not even 50% sure of.
Rumours and gossip can come from every level of the organisation or industry, not just at the lower level teams. Sometimes it becomes a rumour by default because the CEO says something they believe to be true, but doesn’t 100% know it.
Then someone who was in earshot of the CEO may spread what they say, and it turns out to be untrue. That will discredit the CEO because everyone will know it came from him/her.
Others may receive information from someone they confide in 100% and would not believe that they would give them false information. So with that belief in tact, the information will be spread, which again turns out to be untrue.
This will discredit the person spreading the information, and also the source of the information, which is the person who they 100% confide in.
2. Knowing The Facts NOT The Gossip
A highly effective leader at all costs will not spread any information unless they know 100% that the information is a fact. They will never spread something that they are less than 100% sure of. A highly effective leader values very highly their credibility and integrity.
If they share something that they are unsure of, they risk losing their credibility and integrity, so they will avoid doing that. If you spread something that you do not have 100% certainty that it is true, then you are placing a very high risk on yourself.
You will lose your credibility and integrity, and your reputation as a highly effective leader will be damaged.
When I started out my leadership career as a project manager, I learned very quickly that I needed to think before I spoke. But not only that, I needed to ensure I had certainty over what I was saying.
A highly effective leader will always have certainty over what they say, otherwise they won’t say it. Having certainty is a trait of all highly effective leaders.
3. Never Try To “Wing It”
When I was an engineering production manager working on the railway in Scotland in 2011, I learned a very valuable lesson. Never try to “wing it”.
Whenever I was on dayshift, it was my job to present the morning brief to the senior leaders on the performance of the trains from the previous day, and what engineering issues had happened. Part of the briefing was to give details on whether or not the engineering issues had been fixed, and if the trains were serviceable again.
I remember one particular engineering issue had caused the trains over 100 minutes delay in service (this happened at least once a week). Anything that caused over 100 minutes delay had to have a thorough investigation, and a report written.
I was not fully informed on what happened, or if the issue had been fixed or not. So when I was asked the question, I was so frightened because I didn’t know, that I told my boss that the incident had been fixed. When in fact, my boss knew more than I did, and he was trying to find out how much I knew.
Unfortunately for me, the issue had not been fixed and the train would not be serviceable for another day or two.
As you can imagine, my boss was not very impressed to say the least. He gave me a right good “telling off” in front of everybody in the room. I was so embarrassed because there were people in the room who I managed. To be honest, a “telling off” is quite light compared to what I really got from my boss.
But, from then on I had learned to always be 100% certain, and if you don’t know something, just say you don’t know.
Another lesson I learned was to make sure that my team had 100% certainty too whenever they were relaying information. I did not want them to make the same mistake as me by “winging it.” So whenever we had a team meeting and I asked a question like, “what happened when…”
Or, “Do you know how this happened…” If they gave me an answer which explained that they knew what happened, I would always ask a follow up question like, “How do you know?” I wasn’t trying to catch them out, I was trying to help them be 100% certain.
There were occasions when certain team members tried to “wing it” with me, however I would always tell them about the mistake I made, and that they should not do the same. This helped them, and enabled us as a team to ensure we always had 100% certainty.
Since making that mistake in 2011, I have become very comfortable with telling people “I don’t know.” For me, being able to do that is good leadership. I will never tell anyone that I know something when I don’t. If you do that, it means you are an insecure person.
4. It Is OK To Say “I Don’t Know”
However, if you are comfortable with saying you don’t now, it shows the other members of your team, and the leaders that it is ok to say “I don’t know.” So it will benefit those around you too, which again shows good leadership and is a powerful message.
Another powerful message is telling your team that it is not ok to “wing it” or say you know something, when in fact you don’t. Highly effective leaders will never try to “wing it.” If they do then they will lose their credibility and integrity, and damage their reputation.
A low performing leader on the other hand are insecure people, and it is highly likely that they will try and “wing it” when they don’t know something. This brings out their insecurities to the forefront.
A highly effective leader is a very secure person and will always say they don’t know. The thought of “winging it” doesn’t even enter a highly effective leader’s head.
Throughout your organisation and your industry, no matter what you say, your credibility and integrity is at stake. So ensure that you have 100% certainty on everything that you say, that includes when you say, “I don’t know.” If you want to gain the trust from your team and for them to allow you to influence them, you must have certainty.
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To have certainty is a very valuable lesson to learn, and should be practiced every single day of your life, and every time you speak. You never know who is walking by and listening to what you’re saying. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the lowest position in the organisation, or the CEO. Every single person must have certainty every day.
When working on ourselves, we must turn the lesson of having 100% certainty into a habit. We must practice this so much that it becomes second nature, and it must feel very uncomfortable to us if we ever try and “wing it.”
We must also help others who we find that do try and “wing it.” Sometimes people try to “wing it” out of fear, like I did in 2011. By helping others and showing them that it is ok to say, “I don’t know” will show really good leadership.
Don’t let ego, pride, or even fear get in the way of learning the lesson to have certainty. The only person who will lose out is you.
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Hi Tom, I remember my time as a software developer in my last permanent role actually working for an automotive car company. After 6 years of putting up with all the BS and Office Politics, it was here that pushed me into the world of freelance so I have them to thank.
“Winging it” used to happen all the time.
Been in a position of trust, you have to be very careful how you approach pretty much anything in business especially amongst your team members.
Diplomacy is key and found to my detriment what can happen if you aren’t.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Mick
Hi Mick,
Thank you for your comment. It’s great to read about your experiences of “winging it”.
It happens a lot more often than I would like in the places I have worked in before. As you have read, I have “winged it” and it is so rare that you get away with it.
As long as you have cut “winging it” out, you will go far.
Keep returning, keep engaging, and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom
Hi Tom, so true unfortunately in relation to rumors in the workplace. It really can destroy a team and also someone’s career and the rumors can stick like mud. Also thanks for sharing some of those powerful messages. I have walked away with a lot to think about.
Hi Sarah,
Thank you for your comment. I am so pleased you have a lot to think about.
It is unfortunate that rumours can stick and hinder a person’s career. When it comes to rumours within a team, it can destroy morale but it can also destroy relationships and friendships. I have seen this happen and it is not nice to witness. I have actually spoken up to stop rumours and that can be difficult too.
Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom
I really found this so interesting to read, it makes so much sense how people that spread rumours are really just insecure people wanting more social engagement, it almost gives them a purpose.
An excellent representation of what it is to be a leader! love this Tom, it says a lot about many of us!
Hi Amy,
Thank you for your comment. I’m so happy that you found the article valuable.
You have made a great point that people actually use spreading rumours to give them a purpose. It is really sad to think about but it is true. It just makes me want to help these people even more and help them find a much more positive person in life.
Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom
This is a great article, and so very, very true.
I like the fact that you point out that people gossip because they want to be the “Go to Authority”, when all they are doing is bringing their own status as a person down because of misinformation, or just unnecessary information.
And sometimes just reading a great article like this sets a “Reminder” of what leaders should be doing.
Thanks for the info!
Hi Erik,
Thank you for your comment. Really pleased that you found it valuable and you have made some excellent points.
Being the “Go to authority” for gossip or misinformation is really sad to think about. These people obviously know how to find information instead of making it up, so why don’t they be the “Go to Authority” for factual information that actually helps others?
Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom
Hello Tom,
Your article truly resonates with me coming from the Oil & Gas industry. Politics, rumors and backstabbing as you know are the order of the day in the corporate world and can be truly devastating.
Far worse than all of these, I have found, are some leaders that lack integrity and are unable to stand up and speak truthfully when required.
“Winging it” just doesn’t cut it at times. I’ve seen some who have done so and I’ve also seen others who have either admitted their ill preparedness for a meeting or, simply acknowledged not knowing the answer to a question they were asked – but promised to seek this out.
Good leadership as you rightly indicated means being able to stand up and honestly respond to any question you are asked.
Great post!
Hi Ceci,
Thank you for your comment. You have made some excellent points from your own experiences.
Politics, rumours, and backstabbing is definitely the order of the day in some organisations. People actually go to work with the purpose to do these things. This is really sad and I would love to work with these people to try and help them change their perspective.
“Winging it” definitely does not cut it. I learned that honesty definitely is the best policy. Answering questions with “I don’t know” is ok, and then finding out afterwards is also ok. However, you do get some “bosses” who are not ok with that, which tells me exactly what kind of character these “bosses” are. I have worked with many of these “bosses”.
Thanks again for your thorough comment.
Keep returning, keep engaging, and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom
Hi Tom,
I have seen plenty of cases of people “winging it” during my time serving in the army. It never went well for those individuals. You are so right in that it is imperative to always be 100 % certain of anything you talk about. In some cases “winging it” can have deadly consequences. Thanks for the reminder.
Hi Rick,
Thank you for your comment, and thanks for sharing your military experience.
In your line of work, it is even more important to be honest when you don’t know, and also to be 100% certain. As you say, in the military services, “winging it” could actually lose a person’s life. I couldn’t imagine having that on my conscience.
Thank you for the example and the reminder to me to make sure I take my own advice.
Keep returning, keep engaging, and keep leading.
All the best,
Tom