What Is Leadership Really About?

If you want a leadership position or title, then you must first learn to lead without a position or title

I believe that if you can implement the leadership principles that I am sharing in my articles to work and increase your influence, it will be inevitable that you will be offered a leadership position (that is if you want one of course).

I want to discuss the area of positions and titles because most people believe that this is what you need to be a leader, when it isn’t.

If you are ever offered a leadership position in your career, then it will be up to you to take it or not. But, what I urge you to take into consideration is the question of “will this position keep me on my journey in the right direction?” If it doesn’t then don’t take the position, if it does then do take the position.


I have turned down job offers in the past that had really good salaries, but I didn’t take them because they were not right for the future I wanted to create.

1. What Is Real Leadership?

One of the best measures of a person’s leadership qualities is if he/she lead’s a team without a leadership position. If you can influence a team when you are the same level as them, then you are a true leader. Why is that?

The reason is, people follow you because they WANT to follow you, not because they HAVE to. They follow you because of WHO YOU ARE, not WHAT YOU ARE.

Let’s discuss this in a bit more detail with an example:

You are the manager of a team in your place of work, your deputy (the support manager) is leaving, and you want to promote one of your two supervisors to the support manager role. How would you go about it? What criteria would you use to determine who was the best candidate?

Would you promote the supervisor who people follow because they want to follow them, or would you promote the supervisor who people have to follow? Who has the most influence? It’s an easy decision to make, but you get the picture right?

I know a person who in his entire career that spanned more than 30 years, never had a leadership position, and never had any direct reports. However, he influenced an entire engineering organisation to change for the better, on many occasions. He is still doing this today.

I worked with him for six years and I am proud to say he is my friend. His name is Tom too. Do you think you could do the same in your organisation?

I have worked with others who didn’t have leadership positions also, but were great leaders. They experienced great results with the teams they worked in and changed a lot of things for the better. When I was a graduate engineer, I was part of the original young rail professionals group (YRP).

We influenced the whole rail industry in the UK to sponsor us and we would put on events to promote the industry to young people. That was in 2009, and to start we only had a handful of people.

Now, there are thousands of young rail professional members. We were graduate engineers and we led an entire industry. You DO NOT need a position to be a leader.

When I was younger, I always wanted to have the title (E.g. engineering manager). So that is what I focussed on. What I should have been focussing on was becoming a more valuable engineer and leader.

I should have been trying to increase my influence rather than trying to get a new job title. I was short sighted and did not consider my journey and my direction.

2. Becoming A More Valuable Person

What I encourage you to focus on is becoming a more valuable person and leader within your team. Don’t focus on getting a position or job title. Think big, and focus on your leadership and career journey. Work on your personal growth and develop your influence so you can keep increasing it.

Leadership is a verb, not a noun. Therefore to work, it requires action and cannot be stagnant. Momentum is a leader’s best friend

I want to help you develop your leadership and your influence by helping you learn to lead in your current position first, then progress further when you become a supervisor and then manager, if that is what you want to do. Learning this way will give you an edge over other people who don’t want to read helpful books.

Like me, I learned through trying things out, making mistakes and then trying something different (trial and error). But you don’t have to do that. If I can do this, then you can.

Since 2009, I have led different types of engineering teams within the rail industry, in various organisations all over the UK. I was line manager of the teams, but for most of them I was not the line manager.

For the teams where I wasn’t the line manager, there was no formal authority from me. We all worked for the same company, but on paper they did not have to do anything that I asked of them.

Working within a team is tough, especially when you are trying to influence them from a distance. I needed to build trust with these teams and increase my influence very quickly if we were going to achieve any type of positive results.

On most occasions, I am very happy to say we achieved really positive results, and is something I am very proud of.

3. Increasing Your Influence

How I was able to gain trust and increase my influence with these teams was by doing everything I could to learn from them, just as much, if not more, than they learned from me. I was able to increase my influence that much, that they would do things for the team that our own line manager wasn’t able to influence them to do.

If you have the most influence in your team, then there is absolutely no question that YOU ARE THE LEADER, even if you’re not the leader.

Influence is what turns a boss into a leader, not the job title. I know so many bosses who think they are leaders because they have a title of “engineering technical manager” or “engineering planning manager”. They command respect from their teams because they have the word “manager” in their job title.

However, the team don’t respect them as people. Would you rather be respected for your job title or for who you are? I know what I would rather be respected for. A job title is not leadership, influence is. Let me say that again………LEADERSHIP IS INFLUENCE!

Think of what a leader would accomplish and what a boss would accomplish with the same team, in the same amount of time. How would their styles differ? What would the difference in their team influence be? Who would have more respect from the team? Who would the team HAVE to help, and who would the team WANT to help?

Leaders work with teams of people who want to help them. Bosses work with teams of people who have to help them. Who would you rather work with?

4. Continuously Developing Yourself

If you want to become a leader within your team, when you are not actually the leader, then you must continue developing yourself. You must work on your personal growth and leadership every day. Putting in the hard work now will definitely pay off in the end, especially when you start climbing the leadership ladder.


Implement what you’re learning right now and don’t quit. Share what you’re learning with others and your influence will expand exponentially. That is what makes you a leader, not a job title.

Always remember that when you do eventually get the job title for “manager” or something similar, that you are respected for who you are, not what it says on your business card.

People will follow you because of how you make them feel and who you are. This is the basis of a leadership culture.

How do you feel when you walk into work every day? In other words, how is the culture?

I welcome hearing how this post has influenced the way you think, the way you lead, or the results you have achieved because of what you’ve learned in it. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me by commenting below.

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All the best,

Tom (LeadGrowInfluence)

8 thoughts on “What Is Leadership Really About?

  1. Hello,
    Like this post, alot of good information about leadership and I know to have good leadership you need to have good influence, and respect with others.
    Nice job with your content, it is written very professionaly.

    1. Hi Lyne,

      Thank you for your comment. It’s great that you found the article helpful.

      You are right, leadership is influence and without influence we have no leadership.

      Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.

      All the best,


  2. Hi Tom,

    There’s such valuable information here. I certainly agree with everything you’ve written above, and there are some items I do need to work on more, so thanks for sharing them.

    I think getting your voice out there and adding your input into conversations and calls gets your name out there and shows that you’re not afraid to speak – something that a leader needs to be able to do.


    1. Hi Sharon,

      Thank you for your comment. I’m so pleased that you found the article valuable.

      With the areas that you need to work on, if you need any further help or advice in those areas then please don’t hesitate to contact me.

      Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.

      All the best,


  3. Tom,

    Leadership really is a verb! Your article was very informative. It made me think about a seminar I attended that talked about that very concept. Leaders must do all they can to help their subordinates succeed. I learned a great deal from your article. Thanks!

    1. Hi Robert,

      Thank you for your comment. It’s great that you learned a lot from the article and I really hope you can put what you learned into action.

      You are absolutely right, leaders must do all they can to help their people. This will in turn build trust and strengthen the relationship.

      Keep returning, keep engaging and keep leading.

      All the best,


  4. Hi Tom, this is an amazing article and this has actualy opened my eyes a lot to the things I see and the way I have noticed people are. I agree with you 100% that your title does not define how high above people you are. Yoy can be on the same level as they are. And that Tom, gave me hope and it really does make me want to become a leader in that way. Despite of maybe not even having a great job behind my name or good grades. Anyone can influence people if they know how.

    I certainly saw some bosses that think they are high and mighty because they pay the salaries of people so people have to do everything they say and not because they want to. Some bosses make it really hard to want to follow. I loved this article. And it’s really inspired me to be an influencer. Thank you

    1. Hi Chantelle,

      Thank you for your comment and your kind words. I’m really pleased that the article has resonated with you and that you found it valuable.

      It’s great that you have learned a lot here and that you want to become an influencer, no matter where you are at in your career or life. You can totally make this work and don’t let anybody get in your way. We ALL have the ability to influence and to lead, we just need to focus on who we want to influence and lead and then pursue it.

      If you need any further help or advice on your leadership and personal growth then please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

      All the best,


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