Thinking Leads To Decisions

If we thought differently, we would act differently. If we acted differently, we would be living in a very different world.

If you keep thinking the same way, you will always be where you are, you will always have what you already have, and you will always do what you currently do.

1. Changing Your Thinking

If you don’t change your thinking, what you do and where you are will not change. You would already be where you wanted to be if you already knew what you needed to know.

When you take action on what you are feeling and thinking, the world will see those actions as your decisions when they start to determine how you live your life. When you think, your mind is directing those thoughts to your subconscious feelings and emotions.

Your thoughts are conscious and real, but only within your own mind. When you act on your conscious thoughts as decisions, others will see them as real too.


When you make your decisions, your decisions then determine you and your how you live your life. When we think, we are consciously raising our awareness of things within our own mind.

This then leads to an emotion or feeling that we subconsciously feel because of what we are thinking. This is then directed to an action which is something we do because of what we have thought and how we are feeling.

We cannot make a conscious decision without having a conscious thought. Our decisions come from our thoughts and feelings. The quality of our thoughts will lead to the quality of our decisions, so to improve the quality of our decisions, we must improve the quality of our thoughts.

Too many times during our lives, we are negatively influenced by another person, and instead of rejecting our negative thoughts we transpose them in our minds, so we believe them as positive.

This is what causes us problems in our lives, and the ease that we all accept the influence of others and the impact they have on our thoughts, and overall, our decisions.

Think about things in your life right now, the house you live in, the car you drive, and the places you visit. Were all these things 100% decided by yourself, or were you influenced by others?

Think of our minds as an important meal for others, it can be carefully and intelligently cultured or can just be neglected and produce any old thing. If we just neglect the meal then what we produce in the end for others will not be nice and will disappoint the people we are serving, and ourselves.

But if we put the right ingredients into the meal, cook it correctly in the oven at the right temperatures, and serve it in a beautiful way with the right crockery, then we will make ourselves happy and the people we are serving.

2. Preparing Your Mind

Most chefs are prepared and ready to produce a great meal for their customers, and our minds can also be prepared and ready to think positively and produce great decisions.

Our minds can also be allowed to go in any direction or run wild because we haven’t developed ourselves enough, and we are not deliberately thinking the right way. No matter if we have developed ourselves or not, our minds will think up thoughts.

Whether those thoughts and decisions will cause harm or benefit a people, or whether they will be good or bad for us and others, there will always be thoughts in our minds. The same as when a chef applies ingredients to a meal, our minds will apply thoughts in abundance.

We are all responsible to develop ourselves and our minds so that we can think in a positive way that will lead to positive decisions being made for the benefit of ourselves and others.

The same way that a chef is responsible for purchasing the right ingredients so they can make the right meal for their customers. How we think will lead you to your decisions, and your decisions will lead you to wherever you want to be in your life.

The best chefs in the world will test out their meals with different ingredients, so that they are constantly developing the products they are serving to their customers. You can do exactly the same when you develop yourself, and especially develop your mind.

You can read helpful and inspiring books (just like you are now). You can deliberately study the best leaders in the world, who have made some of the best decisions in the world.

You can associate with people who inspire you, and who are positive. You can remove toxic people from your life, and you can remove any bad habits that you may have now.

3. Talking To Yourself

The most important person you will ever lead, and the most important person you will ever listen to is YOU. No matter what, you are ALWAYS talking to yourself 24/7. You are always listening to yourself 24/7.

How you talk to yourself is so important if you want to make the best decisions you can make for yourself and others. What others think and say about you is nowhere near as powerful as what you think and say about yourself.

Unfortunately, too many people talk negatively to themselves every day, and tell themselves that they’re not worthy, or they shouldn’t be where they are in their lives.

Too many times, this negative self-talk leads to extreme behaviour where people harm themselves, or worse take their own lives. The thoughts these people have in their minds, and what they say has led to the decision to bad things to themselves.

4. People Around You

For the people to do these bad things to themselves, they don’t have any hope for their own lives and given up on themselves. It is times like these that you need to surround yourself with and connect with positive and inspirational people.


If you have lost all hope in your life, you need to retrieve hope from these positive people you connect with. You must talk to them, listen to them, and believe them when they say they believe in you. You must take their belief in you and run with it as your own belief in yourself.

When you are around the right people, they will lift you up and give you the hope you need. If the people you are around right now are not doing that, and they don’t inspire you, then you are around the wrong people. You need to remove these people from your life.

When you start talking to yourself in a positive way, your thoughts and decisions will become positive too. You probably talk to yourself negatively sometimes already, but you need to do your best to stop that and change it. When you change your thinking from negative to positive, your life will change.

The reason your life will change is because you will change your daily habits, which leads to different circumstances and situations. When this happens, your life will be different.

Our habits lead to what our circumstances and situations are. If we want to change our habits, then we must change how we think. With more positive thoughts, we will develop more positive habits and produce more positive circumstances and situations.

I welcome hearing how this post has influenced the way you think, the way you lead, or the results you have achieved because of what you’ve learned in it. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me by commenting below.

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All the best,

Tom (LeadGrowInfluence)

10 thoughts on “Thinking Leads To Decisions

  1. So very true, Tom. Our thinking affects all aspects of our lives. As we change our thinking and habits our perception of how we view ourselves, others, and the world in general changes and we are more empowered to make a positive difference. I have heard it quoted long ago “as we learn how to think we learn how to live”.

    1. Hi Joseph,

      I am very pleased that this article resonated with you.

      Keep improving how you think and how you act. Keep working on yourself every day, and helping others to do the same.

      All the best,


  2. Tom, your article “Thinking Leads To Decisions” serves as a potent reminder of the power and impact our thoughts have on our lives and decisions. The analogy of the mind being like a meal that requires careful, intelligent preparation to yield the best outcomes resonated deeply with me. It underscores the necessity of nurturing positive thoughts and developing ourselves to produce decisions that lead to beneficial outcomes for ourselves and those around us.

    I particularly appreciate the emphasis on self-talk and the environment we choose to immerse ourselves in. It’s a critical reminder that the narratives we tell ourselves and the people we surround ourselves with can significantly shape our thought processes and, by extension, our lives.

    Your call to action, encouraging readers to consciously develop their minds and make deliberate, positive decisions, is both empowering and actionable. It’s a vital lesson in the importance of self-leadership and the continuous journey of personal development.

    Thank you for sharing these insights. They serve as a valuable guide for anyone looking to improve their decision-making process and, ultimately, their life’s trajectory.

    1. Hi Anjie,

      Thank you for your very detailed contribution to my article.

      I hope people can learn from you just as much as they can from me. Keep sharing your own inspirational message with the world.

      All the best,


  3. Hi Tom,

    Your article hits home for so many of us! We are constantly influenced by friends, family, co-workers, social media, etc.
    But, most importantly ourselves. I’m certainly guilty of having negative thoughts about myself and constantly comparing myself to others. It is something that I try to work on each day, one thing that has helped immensely is removing toxic people from my life and surrounding myself with people who encourage me and lift me up.

    Thanks for sharing,

    1. Hi Jenny,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, means the world.

      I am so pleased that this article hits home with you and many others. It is my pleasure to share and I hope you can keep working on yourself to become your best self every day.

      All the best,


  4. This article is really food for thought, as a female I tend to be more negative towards myself and I should really learn to stop doing that and, most of all not compare myself to others. After all, we are all just human beings, trying our best, which sometimes means failure, but we should be more positive about ourselves for sure, to be successful in the end!
    Also very recognizable is letting go or distancing from negative people keeping you down, this can be more difficult when this person is family though, so I have work there, thanks for the insights!

    1. Hi Lizzy,

      Thank you for your comment, means the world to me.

      We are all negative towards ourselves, it is just natural for us all. But, working on ourselves to try and change that way of thinking is so important for ourselves and for the people around us.

      Sharing this way of positive thinking with others so they can do the same is just as important too.

      Keep up the great work.

      All the best,


  5. Wow, this post really got me thinking! It’s like a recipe for success, but instead of cooking, it’s about how we think and make decisions. I never realized how much power our thoughts have in shaping our lives.

    I mean, if you keep using the same ingredients (thoughts), you’ll always end up with the same dish (results). But if you switch up the recipe and start thinking differently, who knows what kind of masterpiece you could create?

    And just like a chef carefully selects the best ingredients for a delicious meal, we should be selective about the thoughts we feed our minds. Surrounding ourselves with positive influences and nourishing our minds with inspiring ideas can lead to some truly amazing outcomes.

    But hey, speaking of outcomes, I have a question for you, Tom: What’s one small change you’ve made in your thinking or decision-making process that’s had a big impact on your life? I’m curious to hear about how applying these principles has worked out for you!

    1. Hi Chas,

      Thank you for sharing your very detailed comment. I hope people can resonate with this article in a similar way to you.

      One change I made in my life was to become an author, coach and speaker. I was working on my engineering career and things weren’t going as well as I expected so I decided to make a change. I wanted to help people who may have been in a similar position to me. I want to empower people through coaching so they can come to their own solutions and actions for their own lives.

      I hope that helps.

      All the best,


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