How To Stimulate A Person’s Heart

Being logical stimulates a person’s mind. Being motivational stimulates a person’s heart.

Have you ever been manipulated within your team? Have you ever seen any of your teammates or colleagues be manipulated? I have been manipulated, and the thing is, I knew I was being manipulated.

I just didn’t have the courage at the time to challenge back and intercept the manipulation. It is not a nice feeling.

Manipulation is a very negative and selfish act. When you manipulate your teammates, you are negatively influencing them for your own personal needs. When you manipulate your teammates it causes anger within the team and resentment.

Your teammates will lose trust in you very quickly if you manipulate them.

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Highly effective leaders will never try to manipulate a teammate, or anyone else within their organisation. A highly effective leader will only ever try to motivate their team. By motivating your teammate you are looking for a win/win situation for both.

1. Positive Influence

It is a very positive and selfless act. When you motivate your teammates it makes the team happy, and they will take pleasure in being influenced by you. When you motivate your teammates you are building trust within the team, and your influence will increase.

Whenever you have been motivated, it has come from something outside of yourself. Motivation is external. So, it requires somebody, or something to carry out an act that motivates you. For example, a motivational video on You Tube.

You have been motivated by the video, e.g. the video is the external thing that has motivated you. When something external has caused you to take a certain action with your team, you are motivated.

When something internal from within yourself has caused you to take a certain action with your team, you are inspired. Inspiration is internal and comes from within yourself.

Even though I have been manipulated by some of my line managers and team mates, I have also been motivated a lot more. I have worked with some highly effective team players, and leaders, and they were great at motivating me.

2. Motivation

A highly effective leader knows how to motivate their team because, like me, they have been part of teams and worked with other highly effective leaders who were able to motivate them.

So they have a lot of experience in motivation. When you motivate a teammate, you enable them to take a certain action because of you. As a highly effective leader, the fact that you are part of their team motivates them.

When I became a manager in 2009 and started to lead teams, I found it difficult to motivate the team initially. It felt like me being the manager wasn’t making any difference, and that the team were doing everything the same as we were before.

I wanted to make a difference, I wanted to help the team improve. The team I led were technicians and their job was to maintain trains. This is a very technical job, but the environment can be de-motivating.

Especially when you are underneath a train getting filthy, and you see managers walking by you wearing a suit on the way up to their nice, clean, warm office. That was me when I first took my managers job. However, I realised that if I was to motivate my team, I needed to lead from the front and by example.

So, one or two days a week, I would put my overalls on, and I would work with the team on the workshop floor. I would get underneath the trains doing inspections, and trying to fix any problems. I even went out into service to visit broken down trains.

I wanted to motivate the team, and I thought the only way to do that was to be on the same level as the team. I didn’t want to be some “ivory tower” line manager. I wanted to be a motivating leader. I wanted to be a highly effective leader.

I think it’s very important that if you are a line manager, team leader, or a supervisor, you must also be striving towards becoming a highly effective leader. It was my responsibility to lead the team, and results were my responsibility.

But, it was also my responsibility to motivate the team, and the best way I believe to motivate a team is to lead from the front, and lead by example. By helping the team and working in the same dirty environment as them, and seeing things from their level definitely did motivate the team.

The camaraderie between the team improved, we hung out socially a lot more, and we trusted each other. That is what a highly effective leader does.

One of the main tasks I worked on with the team was re-building the train bogies. The bogies are what hold the wheels and axles in place, along with other safety critical equipment. Our team had a bogie expert, so I took the lead from him.

I could see that he really enjoyed leading his leader, and it motivated him a lot. The rest of the team fed off watching their leader being led, and they too took motivation from it. I was being led and influenced, but at the same time my own influence increased.

Being part of the bogie building team, and helping them where they needed it enabled us to improve and fix more trains in one week than we had before. All because we were highly motivated.

I must say I had a lot of fun being part of that team, and they had a lot of fun working with me too. Every Monday we had a team brief and we would discuss the work we did the previous week.

The team were excited to present their results because they were always improving each week. I made sure I sat out of the briefing and let the team run with it.

We set our own targets, and I vowed to work alongside the team on the workshop floor and “get my hands dirty” every week. I did this because I knew this was the best way to motivate my team, and most of all it was so much fun.

3. Manipulation

I’ve also been part of teams who were manipulated more than motivated. As I discussed earlier, I have been victim to manipulation. When I was engineering technical manager in London, my line manager manipulated me very aggressively.

He was using his position of authority trying to persuade me that I needed to fallout with my colleagues, and blame them for things that were going wrong. Manipulation was the norm in that company and I was oblivious to it even happening.

So I went along with my line manager and I began to fallout with people and blame them when things went wrong.

In the end it backfired on me, and I started to get blamed for a lot of things. So after a while, I almost broke down and I left the company.

Manipulation is a very selfish act, and when it happens to you it is highly embarrassing. It causes you to lose all your confidence in yourself, and any hope that you had.

4. Character

Motivation is the complete opposite. It is a very selfless act, and when motivating another person, you are looking for mutual benefit and a win/win situation. It gives the other person more confidence, it fills them with hope, and most of all it makes the other person and yourself happy.

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A highly effective leader will never use their position of authority to manipulate their team. They will use their position of authority to motivate the team, which will ultimately inspire the team.

Highly effective leaders who don’t have a position of authority can still motivate and influence their team. They can do this because of their character.

They work on their character every single day to ensure it is the highest level it can be. Character is what brings out the best in everyone, especially highly effective leaders.

Having the ability to motivate your teammates is a must for a highly effective leader. By working on your character every day, your influence will keep increasing and your ability to motivate will continue to improve.

Dictate from the back and people will run away from you. Lead from the front and your team will follow you.

I welcome hearing how this post has influenced the way you think, the way you lead, or the results you have achieved because of what you’ve learned in it. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me by commenting below.

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All the best,

Tom (LeadGrowInfluence)

 

6 thoughts on “How To Stimulate A Person’s Heart

  1. Hi Tom, this is a really good post. I love the way you muck in and get under the trains to help out!
    This is exactly what a team would appreciate you doing and hence show you more respect.
    It is horrible feeling when anyone tries to manipulate you or the way you think and act! I think it’s a cowardly way of getting someone else to do their dirty work, so to speak.
    Some people in the role of authority probably like to manipulate workers and have them to be agreeable, and I have been in unreasonable situations where a manager would make a comment, and because I wasn’t prepared I would just take it on the chin, then in hindsight, having reflected on it, I would prepare myself for more amunition! So if a similar occassion occurs I would be fully prepared, and voice my opinion.
    What you offer is an excellent means to help managers train and be not only good at what they preach, but make improvements as a team players.
    Whoever comes across your site, will benefit tremendously with a better outcome. Keep up the good work and the very useful training.
    Julia.😄

    1. Hi Julia,

      I am so pleased with your detailed comment, and great insights.

      It’s great that this article resonated with you and I hope people can learn from you just as much as they can learn from me.

      I appreciate your very kind words and I’m glad you think I can help other managers and leaders with my posts.

      Keep leading and inspiring your people with your amazing message, and keep increasing your influence.

      All the best,

      Tom

  2. I came across your article and at first, I was not planning on reading it because the first thing I saw was manipulation and I despise that, however, I continued to read the article and I agree and was happy to find out what you really meant. Motivation is a good way to lead and thank you for emphasizing that. In the end, I found your article to be inspirational. I am glad I read it through.

    1. Hi Liza,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on my post, means the world.

      I’m glad you read it in full and I’m pleased that it resonated with you.

      Keep inspiring yourself and motivating others.

      All the best,

      Tom

  3. Hi Tom,
    Tom, thank you for sharing your insights on stimulating a person’s heart through motivation rather than manipulation. Your personal anecdotes provide a compelling illustration of the importance of positive influence in leadership. I particularly resonated with your experience of transitioning from a manager who felt disconnected from the team to one who actively participated in the frontline work, leading by example.

    My question for you is: How do you suggest addressing manipulation within a team environment, especially when it’s coming from a position of authority?

    1. Hi Chas,

      I appreciate your contribution to my article, means so much to me.

      It’s great that this article resonated with you and to learn more about how I deal with manipulation then check out my books, as they have some very detailed examples that you can learn from.

      All the best,

      Tom

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