What Are Your Strengths and Weaknesses?

Most people throughout the world focus on weaknesses, and neglect their strengths. I am here to tell you that focussing on weaknesses in the area of competency is wrong. You must focus on strengths.

Throughout the world in most industries, it has been embedded into people (us included) to focus on the areas that we are weakest in, when it comes to our competencies. The idea is that if we focus on weaknesses, then we can try to improve those areas. However, while we are focussing on weakness, we are neglecting our strengths.

We are not practicing them, so we are not fulfilling our competency potential in those areas of strength.

The same applies in business performance too. Businesses focus on the areas that they are not doing well in, and try to improve those areas. By not focussing on the areas they are doing well in, over time those areas will become weaker.

1. Focussing On Your Strengths

Highly effective leaders want to fulfill their potential, so it is very important that they understand where to focus if they want to enhance their competencies. When I began focussing on my strengths instead of my weaknesses, I could feel a huge difference in my performance and so could others.

Highly effective leaders value the highly effective leaders on their teams. One of the reasons is because they focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses. As you are working on yourself every day, it’s time you start focussing on your strengths in the area of competency.


You are strong in these areas because you don’t need a lot of effort to perform. However, your focus needs to be intense, not average. If you only give average focus, your strengths will remain average. If you give intense focus, then you will become an excellent, highly effective leader.

Highly effective leaders are looking for excellence, and that will be you when you start to focus.

When it comes to weaknesses, these are the areas where you do not have the natural ability to perform without a lot of effort. Everybody has weaknesses. If you focus on your weaknesses instead of your strengths, then you won’t become an excellent highly effective leader, and your team will not benefit.

You will definitely improve in the area of weakness, but you will not be able to fulfill your full potential in your competencies. It doesn’t matter if you give intense focus to your weaknesses, at best you will become average, not excellent.

An average team member is definitely appreciated, but they are not as valued as an excellent highly effective leader.

2. When To Focus On Weaknesses

When it comes to a highly effective leader’s character, they know that they need to focus on their weaknesses. Just like in the area of competency, they need to give intense focus on their weaknesses, not average focus.

A highly effective leader knows to work on their competency and character every day by focussing on both their strengths and weaknesses. That is how a highly effective leader becomes excellent, and will become the most valuable leader they can be.

A highly effective leader realises that by improving their character in the area of weakness, and improving their competency in the area of strength is their secret to success.

As you are working on yourself every day to become an excellent highly effective leader, and work on being the most valuable team asset you can be, focussing on your strengths in the area of competency and your weaknesses in the area of character will be your secret to success too.

Team members will hold you in very high regard, and leaders will value you to the highest level. The opportunities will also open up to you very fast.

3. Focussing On Character

This website, my blog posts, videos and my future materials have been put together to help you to improve and develop your character. To increase your influence and become a highly effective leader, character is where you must put the most focus.

Almost 90% of your results will be down to your character, not competency. That being said, you must not neglect your competency and work on your strengths to help develop them. Otherwise you will not become the excellent highly effective leader that you are capable of being.

Your team deserves to have an excellent highly effective leader like you, so make it your responsibility to work on yourself every day to be just that. Your character will need to be as strong as possible if your team want to build a relationship with you.

Your character will need to be as strong as possible if your team want to be influenced by you, work with you, and accept you for who you are. When you have built relationships with your team, and they want to be influenced by you, it will be your competency that turn your influence and relationships into actual results.

Character and competency go hand in hand. Your competency will enable you to take the teams, and the organisation’s vision, and make it your own. It is your competency that will enable you to contribute to the team’s and the organisation’s mission.

When character and competency are working together in harmony that is when you will gain trust from your team, your leader, and your organisation.

If your character and competency do not work in harmony, and are of the highest level they can be in both areas, then you are on the path to becoming a low performing leader. Team members will not want to work with you, they will not be influenced by you, and they will not really accept you.

I have worked with many people who have a very high level of competency, but their character was at a very low level. It doesn’t matter if you have a very high competency, with a low level character, it will not work.

You probably know people in your organisation, or even on your team who have high competency, and low character. What do you think of them?

Let’s try and understand the reason why this happens so often, and why they are still a part of the team and the organisation.

On the teams I have worked with in the past, there have been many team members who had a low level character, but we still worked with them. The reason we did was because there wasn’t anybody else to do the task they were doing.

They were good at the particular task but their behaviour was unacceptable at times. However, we tolerated them almost out of necessity.

There was also more than one team member who had a low level character, and they shared the same negative values. It was difficult for me because whenever I challenged one of them to improve their behaviour, they would team up against me.

I found that to be very hard because I wasn’t strong enough to keep challenging. I just accepted them for who they were, even though they were dragging the team down.

4. When To Work With a Low Performing Team

You will only ever see a highly effective leader working with a low performing team for one reason only. That reason is to turn the low performing team into a highly effective team. I have not seen this happen very often, because usually a highly effective leader will not work with a low performing team.

But, the occasions I have seen this, it was an amazing experience. To change a team from a low performing team into a highly effective team takes a very high level character, and competency working in harmony. There is only a highly effective leader who can pull this off.

It was during my time as engineering technical manager in 2018 working in London, that I witnessed a low performing team be transformed into a highly effective team. I appointed a guy called Terry to join one of my technical teams. Terry was a very experienced and competent person.

But most importantly, he had a very high level character. It was his character that made my decision for me. Anyway, I advised him to help turn the technical team around and improve their performance. Within the first week, Terry showed the team what success looked like.


He set his vision for the team and led the team from the front. After a month, the team’s performance had improved nearly double. Attendance went up, projects were being completed and on time, and every team member bought in to Terry’s vision.

I was so happy and excited that I wished I could have been part of that team and their journey. I helped them whenever they needed it, and it was a pleasure to lead them.

Terry is a highly effective leader, and I learned a lot from him. It makes me smile whenever I talk about him.

To become a highly effective leader, we don’t need more resources, we need more resourcefulness. We need to make the best of what we already have. Not wish for things and make excuses on the things we don’t have.

I welcome hearing how this post has influenced the way you think, the way you lead, or the results you have achieved because of what you’ve learned in it. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me by commenting below.

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All the best,

Tom (Lead, Grow, Influence)

18 thoughts on “What Are Your Strengths and Weaknesses?

  1. I always love to read your posts because I’m learning new stuff all the time. Becoming a good leader is not made for everyone, but if you can work with your strenghs and your weaknesses to become better, it might be possible for you to become a great leader.

    I can relate to the leader I have right now at my job. He knows a lot of stuff and he is really good at what he is doing (mechanical engineer and naval architecture). I’ve been working with him for 2 years now and I must say that his character has improved a lot. He’s not the same leader I had 2 years ago and I’m proud of him because it’s nice working with the guy he is now.

    Back 2 years ago, it was different. He was learning how to become a leader and it was not always easy. We were not a big team and things were going soso. Now the team is bigger so he didn’t have the choice to become the leader we needed. It’s a proof that when you work on yourself, you can truly become a great leader.

    Thank you for sharing this amazing information, I appreciated reading it.


    1. Hi Audrey,

      Thank you for your amazing comment, and really putting a lot of thought into it. I really appreciate it.

      It’s so great to hear that the leader you have been working with has gone from an average leader and is on the right path to becoming a highly effective leader (if he is not there already). I love to hear about leaders working on themselves every day, and if I can help leaders to do that, then it is all the more satisfying.

      It most certainly is possible for everyone to become a great leader, even if at the moment you don’t feel like you can. If it is something that you or others have at the back of your mind to do, then don’t let it go. We must do everything we can to work on ourselves every day in the area of leadership and personal growth. If we do that, we will be living a life of fulfillment.

      Thank you again, and keep engaging.

      All the best,


  2. Dear Tom
    Thank you very much for your fantastic website. It is amazing that you show people where to start and what steps to take towards their confidence and positive mindset. I hope more people will know about your website and follow your guidance.
    Kind regards,

    1. Hi Andrey,

      Thank you for your comment, and your kind words.

      I hope more and more people are aware of my site too because it is my mission to share the highly effective leadership message, and help as many leaders as I can.

      If I can help you at all in your leadership and personal growth then please don’t hesitate to contact me.

      All the best,


  3. I agree with you to a point we should focus on our strengths over our weaknesses, but it is good to work on improving where we need to improve at times as well.

    You have provided awesome information and a great guide for focusing on our strengths, and I am going to add what I am lacking in my own strategies with some of yours.


    1. Hi Jeff,

      Thank you for your comment. Really pleased you found it valuable.

      We must certainly work on things that we need to improve on, in the area of competency. But when it comes to our character, influence, and leadership, we must focus on our strengths more. We must also focus on our weaknesses but not as much, otherwise we will risk our strengths becoming weaker, not stronger.

      It’s great to hear that you are going apply these strategies to your own. I really hope that they work for you.

      If you need any help with them, or any further advice then please don’t hesitate to contact me.

      All the best,


  4. I highly agree and support your idea. you should never let the challenge overtake your character, competing against others is a big no as that’ll overcome the whole idea of become a leader. I really enjoy reading your post to this, and I hope more people will follow your website and that it’ll help them gain more knowledge in this particular area.

    kind regards

    1. Hi Teokotai,

      Thank you for your comment. I’m so pleased that you found the article helpful.

      You are so right, we must do our best to not let our character become weaker because of the challenge. By focussing on our strengths in the area of character, then we are doing our best to stay strong.

      I hope more people will visit and engage, just like you. So please do keep returning and engaging too, and share the message.

      All the best,


  5. Hello There Tom – I’m glad you are upfront enough to emphasise this, because not just in business but in our personal life as well, we are not encouraged to be proud of our strengths. A lot of people see it as bragging or being cocky – but if we’re not confident in our own abilities, why would anyone else put any stock on us?

    1. Hi Simon,

      Thank you for your comment. Really pleased you found the article valuable.

      You are so right. Believing in ourselves and our own strengths is so important if we want to continually grow. As we work on ourselves each day our confidence in ourselves will grow too.

      Keep believing in yourself, keep working on your strengths and keep engaging.

      All the best,


  6. Great article Tom,

    I like the fact that you subscribe to leading with the available resources at hand, rather than complaining about what you don’t have to accomplish a task. I have seen so many leaders with the “do as I say, not as I do” mentality. I always cringe when I see that.

    I have learned a lot over the years from highly effective leaders, which in turn transforms upcoming leaders – and teams into exceedingly high producing teams – and upcoming leaders. It is a great thing to be a part of.

    Thanks for the great article. I’ll stay tuned for more…

    All the best,


    1. Hi Brian,

      Thank you for your comment and your kind words. Really happy that you have found the article valuable.

      It is about being resourceful, not having the resources. Exactly what you say, and the best leaders in the world are the ones who are the most resourceful.

      It’s great to hear that you have learned a lot and are still learning from highly effective leaders. To be able to be a part of other leader’s journeys is such an honour.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and keep engaging.

      All the best,


  7. It’s inspiring to hear about someone who is effective in their approach to being accepted to change things and had the ability to build rapport with the team and thus the team’s output.

    I agree that building on and focussing on strengths is a genuinely valuable strategy to work on. It is very easy to focus on the negative things about ourselves, which can be good to reflect on, however not spend too much time on it. Instead, grow in awareness around that knowledge of what to work on that needs to be improved, while doing it in a positive way can actually help build on one’s strengths.

    1. Hi Kat,

      Thank you for your comment. I’m so pleased you found the article valuable.

      You are so right, we can get bogged down in focussing on the negatives. Most people throughout the world focus on the negatives because that’s how we have all been brought up really, it’s human nature. But focussing on our strengths and reflecting on our weaknesses is definitely how we will continually grow.

      Love your comment, you definitely know what you are talking about. Keep growing, keep working on yourself, and keep influencing.

      All the best,


  8. Hi Tom,
    I can certainly relate to this and I think it’s just human nature to focus on where we go wrong rather than where we go right.
    Over the years, I’ve definitely made a point of focusing more on my strengths and using those to better my situation. For sure, it’s important to know your weaknesses and not ignore these but I’ve found heaps of success through harnessing what I’m good at and working harder on those areas.
    Thanks for the great read

    1. Hi Marketa,

      Thank you for your comment. I’m so pleased that you found the article helpful.

      You are so right, it is definitely human nature to focus on where we go wrong. I used to do this, but after learning to focus on my strengths, my results started to change. Helping others to do the same, I also saw their results change for the better.

      It’s great to hear that you focus on your strengths too, it would be great as you work on yourself each day that you help others to also focus on the strengths. Keep focussing on your strengths.

      All the best, and keep engaging.


    1. Hi Paritosh,

      Thank you for your comment. Really happy that you found the article helpful.

      Focussing on our strengths a lot more is so important. Keep it up and help others to do the same.

      If you need any further help or advice then please don’t hesitate to contact me.

      All the best,


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