How Do You Make Things Happen?

Working on yourself with purpose will lead to great things. Waiting for things to happen will only lead to exactly what you already have. What would you rather have?

When you start to put into action the principles you are learning, you will be working on yourself with purpose and taking action. Then you will start to see opportunities coming up that you MUST EMBRACE – EVEN IF YOU’RE SCARED.

1. Building Relationships

Building relationships with new people and building your network will also lead to many more opportunities. You will find that people who you don’t know in your organisation will start to either talk to you or talk about you as you increase your influence. So again, embrace it.

Increasing your influence and building relationships will not happen overnight, it does take hard work. Personal growth is a lifelong journey, it is not an event or something that just happens once. You need to put the effort in when applying and then practicing the principles in this post.

But, don’t get discouraged and NEVER GIVE UP. Keep working at it, and you will start to see the benefits. I promise you, things will start to change for the better, just believe in the process.


What I am sharing in this article are principles that I have applied to my own life by taking action on them. They are not principles that I have read about, or have been taught and not done anything with.

These are principles that I have worked on for the last twenty years of my life, and I am still taking action on them right now.

Twenty years sounds like a long time, but it isn’t. I need to keep practicing, taking action and learning more about leadership I need to continue building trust and increasing my influence every day for the rest of my life.

2. Applying Principles You Learn

You have decided to do the same, so start applying the same principles in this post, and take action. When you take action every day, you will also be learning every day too.

You will be learning about leadership, building trust, increasing your influence and many other things. While you are doing that, the opportunities will come to you.

If you keep taking action every day and making sacrifices, then eventually these principles will become habits. When that happens you will start to practice them almost automatically. In fact, it will feel strange one day if you don’t work on yourself at all, as it will be uncomfortable for you.

Remember, make sacrifices today, so that your personal growth and your influence will increase in the future. If you have the will and desire to make sacrifices then your opportunities and relationship building will continue to grow too.

Always bring people with you on the journey. Everything you learn each day, please share with your team mates, your boss and other people within your organisation. Share with your friends and family too, especially any younger people.

When the learning flows from you into others and you see them doing better, that will in turn help you to keep doing better too.

In the future if you ever meet me, I want to learn from you just as much as you learn from me. I want you to take me on your journey, which is why I wrote this post. I want to share what I have learned with as many people as possible, and I in turn want to learn from them.

I have the belief that you can change. I have the belief that you can improve. I have the belief that you can increase your influence. I have the belief that you can become the best person that you can be. I have the belief that you can be a great leader.

How much do you believe in yourself? How much are you willing to sacrifice? How much are you willing to risk? How much are you willing to step out of your comfort zone? How much are you willing to fail?

3. Never Give Up

Not being afraid to fail is very difficult to grasp. But, it is something that we all have to do in life. Failing is how we learn. Just NEVER GIVE UP!

All the way through our lives, we have failed at things. When we were babies we couldn’t talk, we could just make noises. Then after a couple of years, after failing to say specific words, we eventually did start talking. Then after another year or two we could talk perfectly well like anybody else.

Nobody taught us really, we just listened, tried, failed, listened, tried, failed, listened, tried, and failed, until we could talk. Our parents supported us and tried to help but we learned all on our own.

When you are learning how to lead and increase your influence in your team, it is exactly the same. You will learn, try, fail, learn, try, fail, learn, try, and fail, until something works for you. Then you go through the process again. It is all trial and error, and the important thing is to NEVER GIVE UP!

You will come across obstacles on your journey, and some will be tough to overcome. The biggest obstacle that I came across, and still come across is myself. That is why I work on myself every day, to try to decrease the obstacle.

4. Embrace Opportunities

Try to think of every obstacle as an opportunity to learn. Whether that obstacle is you or from something/somebody else. Remember, EMBRACE NEW OPPORTUNITIES – EVEN IF YOU’RE SCARED.

You should be very proud of yourself that you have come this far, I am very proud of you. I know lots of “leaders” who won’t read a leadership book because they don’t think they have to. When actually, they need to read one more than anyone else I have met.

With the knowledge you now have on leadership and influence, it is your responsibility to take action. It is your responsibility to practice and share what you have learned. Treat it as an obligation, do your best to make it work, and things will happen for you and your team.


If you have found this article valuable, then please encourage others to read it too. Share it with your team, and encourage your boss to read it.

If you share it with the team, it will show them that you believe in them and that they have the potential to go from average team members to excellent team members.

To increase your influence with your boss and the other bosses within the organisation, tell them what you have learned and what your plan for your personal growth is.

Tell them where you want to be in the next 5 years, and share with them how you are going to strive towards that 5 year target. Encourage others within your organisation to share leadership principles with their teams.

If you give up, then you have failed. If you don’t give up and keep trying, then eventually you will succeed. DO NOT GIVE UP!

Believe in yourself enough to take a risk! To create the future you want, you must ensure that it is not the same as your past.

I welcome hearing how this post has influenced the way you think, the way you lead, or the results you have achieved because of what you’ve learned in it. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me by commenting below.

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All the best,

Tom (LeadGrowInfluence)

4 thoughts on “How Do You Make Things Happen?

  1. Very inspiring Tom! Definitely quite a few things I myself needed to hear from this. Brilliantly worded and easy to understand! Keep up the phenomenal work. I’ll find out how to bookmark this page so I can come back to it when i’m feeling a little bit lost in life because as I said there’s definitelya few things in here that resonate with me.

    Keep it up mate, All the best, James

    1. Hi James,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on my article, means the world to me.

      I am so pleased that you found value in what you read, and I hope you share what you have learned with your people too.

      Don’t hesitate to go through any more articles and if you resonate them then please continue to share your thoughts and ask any questions that you may have.

      All the best,


  2. This article on “How to Make Things Happen” is a must-read for anyone who wants to achieve their goals and dreams. I found the four steps you outlined in this article to be straightforward and easy to understand. The importance of building relationships and taking consistent action was especially impactful for me. Surrounding ourselves with positive people and eliminating negativity is very crucial, especially in these times. What I love more about this article is that it provides valuable insights and practical tips that can be applied in both personal and professional life. Thank you Tom for sharing this information!

    1. Hi Femi,

      Thank you for sharing your comment.

      I appreciate your kind words in saying this is a must-read.

      I hope you continue to refer to this article and share it with your people, especially those who are working on their goals and dreams and how they are going to achieve them.

      All the best,


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